For me, this video struck a nerve. If you haven't seen it yet, don't go looking for it because this person doesn't deserve the view or recognition. The content of the video was abrasive, crude, disrespectful, degrading, and uncalled for.
To shame someone based on whether they are skinny or fat is wrong. Not all people have to be a size 00. Not all people have to be a size 16. What all people have to be is tolerant of the lifestyles people are living around them. Notice that I used a specific word in there; tolerant. Webster defines tolerant as "willing to accept feelings, habits, or beliefs that are different from your own." It isn't your business that someone is 300 pounds. It isn't your business that someone is 100 pounds. It isn't your place to point out what you believe to be a flaw in another person. Did you create that human you're criticizing? Have you interviewed people of a particular weight/size and talk about reasons why they are that way? You might be calling out someone you saw in the supermarket and they were so skinny that their skin was almost transparent, and you could see where each bone started and stopped. But maybe that person you're so quick to judge hasn't set foot in a supermarket for years because of an eating disorder, and they're just starting to get better. You might be calling out the person who was overweight in front of you at the bank, but what you don't know is that they've lost 50 pounds already.
There is so much more to each and every human being that's ever walked this earth than what you can see. If you have the nerve to look at someone and tell them they need to eat more, or eat less, because of their size, then I hope you choke on your own spit from now until the end of time. No one has the right to tell someone else how to live their life. No one.
One specific thing I would like to address is something that was said in the video when the YouTuber claimed her previous video directed toward "fat people" was her talking about caloric intake. First of all, if you are overweight and go from eating 10,000 calories a day and try to drop to only 2,000 calories a day you are setting yourself up for failure. Many people who are overweight suffer from eating disorders. It's psychological. You can't bully someone who is addicted to cocaine into quitting, you're only making the addiction worse by feeding that fire of insecurities that person has. What someone trying to eat healthy, and be at a healthy weight, can do is instead of reaching for a junk food snack like candy, chips, or ice cream try and eat fruits, nuts, or yogurt instead. It's easy to get swept up in the diet tornado and be spat back out, worse off than you were before. It doesn't make it any easier to have someone who doesn't struggle with losing or gaining weight to make fun of you on your journey.
I can guarantee you that after her first video, the backlash she received for the content hurt her ego. My goal here isn't to bully her to get even, tell any of you to try and take her down via social media, or to make fun of people who think differently than I do.
My goal here is to help each and every one of you know that no matter what you weigh, what you look like, or what other people say about you, you are beautiful and unique. Why would I want to promote bullying of any kind?
One day, I hope she finds her comedic humor style. What she's doing now isn't comedy like she claims time and time again throughout her video. Sorry to break it to you sister, but it's bullying and you are being a bully. Honesty is one thing. Having a genuine concern for someone because of their weight is a concern many people today have. But telling someone to stop eating is NOT a solution. That is an eating disorder.
There are young, impressionable girls who look up to so many social media celebrities. I see time and time again such negative, empty, dangerous content being thrown around in the name of comedy. Particularly from this woman. Yes, woman. You would think someone who is supposed to have some type of maternal instinct would be a little more concerned with what she is feeding to the youth of this planet. Nope. It's all about the views, the followers, the subscribers, the likes.
Instead of focusing on pressing issues, offering some creative ways to help yourself get healthier, or even doing a make up tutorial, she chooses to berate plus size women. She makes the newest swimsuit model on the cover of Sports Illustrated, Ashley Graham, the focal point of her pitiful comedy act.
I find it funny that this YouTuber decided her opinion of this model was the only opinion anyone watching should have; she didn't deserve to be on the cover, and she was only doing it for the money. Again on her part, there is no research, personal experience, interviews, no content in her video other than what she thinks about the plus size community of women. It's not constructive by any means like she desperately tried to prove at the end of the video, showing photos of people's transformations after her first video was posted. You shouldn't bully someone into the person you think they should be. Who is she to judge this model? Who is she to judge anyone?
Anyway, all I'm saying is if you decide to pick at a problem without offering a constructive solution, they you're part of the problem. Don't use your words, platforms, messages, social media, etc. for bullying other people. Differences in humanity is what makes it so beautiful. We pay money to go scuba diving and see all the varieties of fish around the world, yet we are so quick to tear down anyone different than ourselves.
If you do decide to identify a problem you think people have, do yourself a favor and research the topic. You wouldn't want to look stupid ranting on with nothing but your own ill thought out opinion backing you up. After all, you are trying to "help" others, right?
Think before you speak.
Always research a topic before talking about it.
Live long and prosper.
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